Pollen is a networking group and a networking newsletter for professionals written by Lars Leafblad (Bush Fellow) of KeyStone Search, an executive search firm in Minneapolis. A Pollen member posted a TED Talk by Brene Brown on their LinkedIn group site.
My curiosity got the best of me, and I found it very relevant and applicable to my fellowship experience.
How do we learn to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections so that we can engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection that we need to recognize that we are enough – that we are worthy of love, belonging, and joy?
1) Courage…to be imperfect
2) Compassion…the kind that allows us to be kind to ourselves first.
3) Connection…as a result of authenticity, making a distinction between “who I should be versus who I really am”
Fourth, these individuals embraced vulnerability. Those people believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. It was neither comfortable nor excruciating, but these individuals saw vulnerability as necessary. How these people embraced vulnerability was in their willingness to do something without where there are no guarantees. Whether it’s asking for help from those we love; initiating something difficult or even something good; being turned down; giving bad news.
So what does it mean to embrace your vulnerability? To make it the source of self-worth and sense of belonging?
Brown suggests, Let yourself be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen; to love with our whole hearts, even though there’s no guarantee. You see, to be vulnerable means to be alive.
And lastly, it’s important to believe and remember: We’re enough. When we work from that place that says “I’m enough”, then we can stop screaming and start listening, we’re kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we’re kinder and gentler to ourselves.